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Ugh Heartbreak sucks.

   Discussion: Ugh Heartbreak sucks.
Christa · 19 years, 4 months ago

Any quick fix remedies...?


I thought not.

Starfox Back · 19 years, 4 months ago
Two words. Binge Drinking.

Or not.
Jºnªthªn Back · 19 years, 4 months ago
Internet porn?
nate... Back · 19 years, 4 months ago
IRL porn.

Christa Back · 19 years, 4 months ago


porn is always the answer.

Agent Scully Back · 19 years, 4 months ago
o/~ the internet is really really great....FOR PORN!!!! o/~
--Avenue Q
Nik Chaikin Back · 19 years, 4 months ago
I LOVE that song! "grab your dick, and double click, for porn porn porn."
Zach Back · 19 years, 4 months ago
Heh...DVN earworm
Geoff Back · 19 years, 4 months ago
Causing someone else to experience the joys of facebreak. Ideally, the person who caused the heartbreak to begin with.
Failing that, sleep with anything that moves.
Rimbo Back · 19 years, 4 months ago
Holds perfectly still, lest his wife find out.
Snow In Summer Back · 19 years, 4 months ago

do what i'm doing. find really good friend. tell really good friend about what stupid boy (or girl) did to you. really good friend will threaten to remove vital organs from stupid boy (or girl). tell really good friend that you want no knowledge until after the fact (to avoid karma issues).

makes me feel better. can also read thisto see end of story.

Christa · 19 years, 4 months ago
Mmmmmmmm.... gotta sober up sometime. :-/ eh.
Samantha · 19 years, 4 months ago
kill him. point blank. just do it. I'm having a really tough time in my relationship right now.. and as much as I love him, I want to hang him with his shoelaces. Either that, or lock him in an elevator with the Hanson brothers..

some kind of torture equal to what he's forcing me to endure:)
Christa Back · 19 years, 4 months ago
Hey hey now dont mock the Hansons!
Rachel Marie aka RAI Back · 19 years, 4 months ago
SEWIOUSLY! Hansons = awesomes.
Samantha Back · 19 years, 4 months ago
oh, don't get me wrong.. I like hanson.. it's just that He doesn't
Christa Back · 19 years, 4 months ago

Okay good.

Mmmbop on, my friends... mmmbop on...


A.J. · 19 years, 4 months ago
Forget stupid boy/girl. Find better one. There are SOOOO many out there.
Snow In Summer Back · 19 years, 4 months ago
AJ, please don't take this the wrong way, but why do all the married/committed people say that? It's really not as easy as it sounds. Now, I know that Christa's 17 & has a lot of time & opportunityto find someone. What about those of us 10or 15years older? That raises the difficulty level just a bit. There areonly so many places someone in their mid-20s can go when they live in the middle of nowhereTM. I'm not going to pick up some un-interesting past time just to pick up men. *sigh* Never mind. Time for work.
K. D. Lurker Back · 19 years, 4 months ago
Yeah I'll be 40 next year and have never even had a serious relationship. I keep telling myself it doesn't matter if I never have a boyfriend, there are plenty of other ways to be happy, but sometimes it just gets to me, y'know? I can't help wondering if there's something wrong with me.
Christa Back · 19 years, 4 months ago


this does not give me hope.

renita Back · 19 years, 4 months ago
then pick up an interesting passtime, that you will enjoy--for you.

the rest may or may not follow, but at least you'll be doing soemthing you find interesting.
Kris 'engaged' Bedient · 19 years, 4 months ago
I have no cure, but I'm in the same boat. so at least you're not alone.
siobhan's a londoner · 19 years, 4 months ago

i found no cure but finding out they got really fat without you helps. i'm sorry to say this but as happily as i am in love now i still sometimes pine for one of the old ones...i realise it fell apart for a reason though.
patience and consolation though...*hugs*


Christa Back · 19 years, 4 months ago

mmmm thanks.

Im happy for you.

Really, that was meant to be sincere

Christa · 19 years, 4 months ago
I just logged onto his email account (he doesnt know i still have his password...)
And read all the emails between him and his new gf.

nate... Back · 19 years, 4 months ago
Hrm... that's just not okay.....

I mean, the logging into his email thing.

Samantha Back · 19 years, 4 months ago
well, I never did that to a boyfriend.. but I *did* do it to Corey Haim when I was 14 *laughs hysterically*
renita Back · 19 years, 4 months ago
that is really not ok.

you need to never do that again.

i feel for you, i do.

but that is a serious, illegal invasion of privacy.

the rage you now feel is entirely your own fault. those words were not for your eyes.
Christa Back · 19 years, 4 months ago

Oh trust me Im not saying what i did was right.

Just that I did it. Its over, cant change it, its a non issue.

I realise I wasnt meant to see it the fact is that I do...and I feel like shit, is all.

nate... Back · 19 years, 4 months ago
Well, you were tempted enough to check it once... and probably will be again... so... I was originally going to suggest that you email him to change his password... but that's probably not the ideal solution.

As such, I have a better one. Change his password.
You can log in, change his password, and when he goes to check his email, it won't work.
Then he'll have to reset his password..... he'll think the ISP or email provider fucked up.... the ISP or email provider will think he's a moron who forgot his password... and nobody is the wiser.

Just a suggestion, that way you won't be tempted again.
Chaya Papaya Back · 19 years, 4 months ago
ooh...that is sooo deliciously's like revenge and self help all at once...and everyone is better off for it!
Christa Back · 19 years, 4 months ago

hah... wish i could but hes nto smart enough to know how to get it back.

Friggin moron.

A.J. Back · 19 years, 4 months ago
Then that is his problem, isn't it? ;)

How did you get his password? Did he give it to you? If he did, and he's too stupid to change it, then I really don't feel that bad for him. Really I feel bad for you, because reading that stuff is only going to make you more unhappy.
Christa Back · 19 years, 4 months ago

Yeah he gave it to me while we were dateing...

Still wish I woulda forgotten what it was.

nate... Back · 19 years, 4 months ago
See, this is exactly the reason to never give out passwords/pins/etc.


Gordondon son of Ethelred Back · 19 years, 4 months ago
I've given mine out and there are a few people reading this that know all of mine. It is a matter of trust. Yes someone unnamed [ it's always sea monkeys] put up a gag lj for me but I know she would never really violate my trust. By giving it out, someone else was able to take care of things for me when I was in the hospital and such. I even told her my ATM PIN (notice I didn't say ATM machine or PIN number?) though I'm guessing she doesn't remember it as it would seem random to anyone that wasn't me.
Phoenix · 19 years, 4 months ago
I can't do much to help you but I can give you a song - a very fine song:

Deb Talan - Ashes on your eyes


MP3 (link will last for a week)

read - listen - heal.
Christa Back · 19 years, 4 months ago
thank you for that.
Gordondon son of Ethelred · 19 years, 4 months ago
Well there is this service you can use. They erase all your memories of the person who broke your heart. They send notices to everyone you know telling them to not bring the person up.
Christa Back · 19 years, 4 months ago
Mmmmm heh... sounds good.
Lux Fruthor · 19 years, 4 months ago
You can create some fake email name and start sending him notices from it that he has to come in and talk about "the test results." CC the new GF.

Or, you can move on and try to heal. You're a better person than him, and you deserve some happiness. That kind of thing. Good luck, whichever path you take.

And choose wisely.

Christa Back · 19 years, 4 months ago


Ill skip the email... heh.

Snow In Summer Back · 19 years, 4 months ago

or... you can just let karma get him.

ETA: link fixed. thanks, nate

nate... Back · 19 years, 4 months ago
Interesting link. ;)

renita · 19 years, 4 months ago
go out and do stuff for yourself,

i dunno, somethingyou'd appreciate and wouldn't normally do.

get a manicure, go see a movie on your own that you know he wouldn't have wanted to go to, go see some live music, go for a hike/bike ride/walk, get a make-over at a nice make-up place, go buy yourself some candles, and some bath stuff (bubbles, oil, or somethign of the like) and a pumice stone and a clay mask and play some nice music and treat yourself to a "spa night".

don't dwell, don't sit and mope and not do anythign else, that won't help you.

and remember, anytime you start yearning after the good times, remind yourself, yes, there were good times, and i can appreciate them, but in the long run, I'm better off without him.
Shelly Back · 19 years, 4 months ago

as someone who is -famous- for dwelling, i agree wholeheartedly with renita!!! do stuff for YOU!!!!!! also, manicures/pedicures are the BOMB!!!!! i HIGHLY recommend!!! a little pampering never hurt ANYONE{well, unless they get a little overzealous with that orange stick under yer nails ;) }

i also find that confiding in and venting to a good, neutralfriend that you can trust does WONDERS!!! sometimes it's too much for us to handle to shoulder the burden alone. find someone to lean on.

rent a silly movie. go to a driving range or play darts using a pic of your ex for a target. safe, good, clean 'wash that man right outta my hair' stuffses.

but..yeah...the whole email account thing is scary and wrong. you don't wanna do stuff like that; though sometimes people tend to do things in the heat of the moment, it only makes ya feel worse and creates consequences in the end. karma is a -bitch- and you -don't- wanna get on it's baaaaaaaaaaaaaaad side!!! ;)

and though this sounds stooopid and cliche, chin up!!! =)

K-Lyn · 19 years, 4 months ago

I always found solace in them. And after a particularly bad break up I found "The Rebound Journal" by Kerry Colburn and Jennifer Worick.

I can't recommend it enough. You'll be too busy laughing to cry when you reading it and it can do wonders for your self esteem. It has many of the recommendations in it that the woderous fruheads have already mentions plus many many more.

Best of luck my dear. You'll be strong for this...

cam · 19 years, 4 months ago
My fiance' has gone back to germany (I live in Nz) to look after her father so I how lonely things can be, but all I've learned from past breakups is that its better not to burn bridges no matter what happened. Just try to move on. The more you dwell on it the more time you waste when you could be out doing something (or some one) that makes you feel happy!

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