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Poll: Do you think a person should be allowed to marry more than one person?

Yes! 16 (19%)
No way. 50 (60%)
Yes, but only if it means having more than one wife. 1 (1%)
Yes, but only if it's polyandry (having more than one husband). 0 (0%)
Other. 16 (19%)
   Discussion: Do you think a person should be allowed to marry more than one person?
Nik Chaikin · 17 years, 3 months ago
Nik Chaikin Back · 17 years, 3 months ago
Heh, i just made a fool of myself.I didn't know old polls could be resurected like this. oh well, with luck the other neglected old poll i got first post on will rise again as well.
dirty life & times · 17 years, 3 months ago
it seems like there might be too much room for abuse there.

multiple wives, by & large, don't seem to do very well, & the state seems to overlap things like woman trafficking & statutory rape too often for me.
Annika · 17 years, 3 months ago

I wouldn't marry1 person, but dating 2 people, who know about each other and are also dating each other? Yes. I am doing that now, and I'm very happy. Though I wouldn't say it's for everyone.

100% dainty! Back · 17 years, 3 months ago
I knew a guy who was dating two girls who were dating each other. His ex-girlfriend then started dating one of the girls too.
lawrence · 17 years, 3 months ago
don't priests/rabbis/etc usually marry dozens of people in their careers? :)
stealthlori Back · 17 years, 3 months ago
Nope. The people being married marry each other. It is their action, The clergy is an officiant or celebrant who makes sure the rite of marriage is followed according to the guidelines so it's "official", but s/he does not "marry" them. (The same is true of judges of course.)
Gordondon son of Ethelred Back · 17 years, 3 months ago
OK who else started thinking about Space Balls.
stealthlori Back · 17 years, 3 months ago
or The Princess Bride.
Pacho · 17 years, 3 months ago
i.e. if your spouse dies
Andrea Krause · 17 years, 3 months ago

Hard for me to weigh in on what should be "allowed". Personally, I can only conceive of being in a monogamous relationship. But I'm open to the fact that my way is not the only valid way. So I don't really know the answer to this. I believe multiple marriages can and do sometimes lead to pretty bad situations. But I have no way to tell if that's a product of the multiple marriage itself or the character of those involved.

And yet again I cannot get off of the fence on an issue. I don't know if that means I'm open to seeing many sides of an issue or if it just means I'm wishy-washy. Heee. :)

Jillian Bird Back · 17 years, 3 months ago
I agree with Andrea. I know polyamoury wouldn't work for me personally, but it's not my place to say what should and should not be permited for everyone. If there are folks out there that feel they can make a multiple marriage work, then all the luck to them. But bad situations can definately come about. Somebody above mentioned stat rape issues, and that definately is a concern, i know, with polygamy in Utah for example. But if all parties involved are adults and are doing it consentually (not, for example, one guy has two wives who don't know about each other), then go for it.
stealthlori Back · 17 years, 3 months ago

Yay for wishy-washy! I'm so open-minded my brain's fallen out. Hee.

I agree with Andrea and Jillian on this. If adults are making consensual decisions, out of something resembling self-awareness and knowledge of their options, and of any of their past issues that have family dynamics, I don't see why it should be a concern of the state.

But if it's children who have been "indoctrinated" in polyamory (not simply raised in a polyamorous family unit with awareness that not every family is structured that way) who upon puberty or shortly thereafter are given by their parents to become one of multiple spouses in a household, then I've got huge concerns because it seems coercive and enslaving. And the indoctrinating groups, usually religions or cults, are always polygynous, haven't you noticed -- not polyandrous or open to each "spouse" having several spouses in the family unit -- so it's always girl-children who find themselves one of several spouses of one "patriarch".

For me it's a matter of adults making decisions for themselves, out of a position of knowledge, vs. children being signed over as "property" without ever having a chance to develop into self-reliant, self-aware individuals genuinely capable of choosing and pursuing their own life path.

Melinda J. Beasi · 17 years, 3 months ago
I'm not opposed, but there would need to be some laws put in place to keep it from being abused, which it could so easily be.
dave "buh" · 17 years, 3 months ago
only if it increases my chances of getting a date!
Mamalissa! · 17 years, 3 months ago
I assume we're talking multiple spouses at the same time. As far as I know, that's the one that Larry King doesn't do.
Andrea Krause Back · 17 years, 3 months ago

Is it sad that I read your post title and thought you were talking about computer ports and not marriages?

Mamalissa! Back · 17 years, 3 months ago
'twas intended. 'twas suppos-ed to be subtle word play.
Andrea Krause Back · 17 years, 3 months ago
Ahhh good. I'm still safely not a geek. :)
Nik Chaikin Back · 17 years, 3 months ago
Whats wrong with being a geek!? I'm PROUD to be a geek.
K-Lyn · 17 years, 3 months ago

I beleive that people should be allowed to live their own lives however they want.

I don't understand how people drunk of their arse can go to a chapel in vegas and have it be a legal binding marriage because they fit the one man one woman formula and that is more "allowed" than other people in another combination who have made a thoughtful commitment...

Jºnªthªn · 17 years, 3 months ago
If you read "Under the Banner of Heaven" by Jon Krakauer, he makes a pretty good case that polygamy as practiced by modern day Mormon fundamentalists is pretty much institutionalized child abuse. It's always young girls (13-16) who are married off to their 50 year old cousin, uncle, dad's best friend, or whatever, impregnated, and basically kept in bondage. Then, since they're technically unwed mothers, they go on welfare. Great.
Doktor Pepski, kommie · 17 years, 3 months ago
One could probably say that having more than one wife might be spreading your love out too too little butter over too much toast.
nate... · 17 years, 3 months ago
Only because the emphasis on the yes wasnt needed.

I personally dont care.. people should be able to do whatever the heck they want when it comes to their own personal love life. *shrugs*
Bel kjfdxcvuyjh8 · 17 years, 3 months ago
This does seem like child abuse, but i'm not really sure.
I heard a quote once while watching an investigative journalism show. It was from a guy who lived just a little ways away from a polygamous community.
"I'm not a Bible thumper. I'm not a very good Christian. But I do know that these people practice what they preach."
Or something like that. It makes you think.

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